2 posts tagged “snickollet”
I just read the most recent post on Snicks' blog. Unfortunately her husband has passed away.
My heart goes out to her and her family.
After my father passed away I went for grief counseling. Its not something that helps everyone but it definitely helped me. In one of our sessions, about 6 months after my dad had passed away, my counselor was trying to explain grief and the grieving process. This is what she said...
When grief is fresh it is as if we have a huge hole in our lives, the person we have lost is gone, they have left an empty space. At this point most people will tell you that the hole will get smaller, the grief will go away with time, thats just not true. The hole never gets filled up, the grief doesn't go away. But something else happens, our lives continue to grow. The hole may not get smaller but our lives get bigger. It doesn't make it hurt any less but we learn how to cope with it. We learn how to live again! (She even had a diagram to explain it, which I have attempted to replicate below).
This explanation of grief really touched something inside me, I think it was then that I truly started to feel better, I started to live again.
It may have no meaning or relevance to anyone else, but it helped me and I hope it helps others too.
Why do these things happen, why!
It's just not fair!
This post just touched my heart! Please take a minute to read it.
On a personal note, my father passed away from cancer almost 6 years ago. Its not easy. The cancer, the fight. Its not easy loosing someone you love. Watching them leave this life. Its not easy understanding why they have to go. Its not easy knowing they wont be there for the big things in your life. Its not easy being strong. I know I wouldn't have gotten through it if I didn't have friends and family and people out there thinking of me, of my family, of all of us.
So, in support of Snickollet, here is my candle.
Please take a moment to light one for her too!
